This would be a good time to give your lover some space and yourself some breathing room. He’s going through a rough transition where he feels very uncertain about his future and this is triggering all of your abandonment anxieties. Your response is to draw up a series of action steps and strategies but that just won’t translate to him right now. He’s in more of a sullen and philosophical frame of mind. What it comes down to in the end is something you already know: He’s the one who has to sort out his own life.