In long-term relationships, it’s easy to settle into a routine with your partner that, while may be comfortable, can make your sex life a tad mundane. However, by shaking it up and using these sex tips, you can revive the spark that first brought you two together. Here are a few ideas to consider.
1. Keep it pretty
First things first. It’s impossible to have great sex if you don’t feel sexy, so treat yourself to a professional blow-dry, some new lingerie, a mani-pedi — whatever is needed to put the va-va-voom back into your step.
2. Flirt with each other
Make a habit of sending playful, sexy messages to him throughout the day. Make him salivate with anticipation by telling him what you’re wearing and what you want to do to him later.
3. Set the mood
Don’t underestimate the power of lighting a few candles. Make sure your bedroom is sexy and doesn’t have toys littering it. And turn off the TV.
4. Just kiss
Agree to place a ban on sex for a certain length of time and just kiss and focus on foreplay. Abstaining from sex has the added benefit of charging up both of your libidos.
5. Surprise him
Don’t wear any underwear, and let him find out.
6. Watch an erotic film together
It doesn’t have to be porn for it to be sexy. Some favourites: Body Heat, Belle de Jour, Last Tango in Paris and Like Water for Chocolate.
7. Play an adult game
Check out these love games for some naughty suggestions.
8. Discover a new position
There are over 60 positions in the Kama Sutra, so there’s no excuse to not try a new one at least once a week!
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9. Share your fantasies
A little role-playing can be fun, and it doesn’t have to be limited to the bedroom. Start the fun before you even get home by meeting at a bar and pretending you’ve just met.
10. Get out of the bedroom
Sometimes a change of locale is all that’s needed to rev up the action. Try having sex somewhere unexpected — just be careful to not get caught!
If any of these ideas make you feel nervous, then you should definitely try those first. The great part of being with someone for an extended period is that you can fully trust and feel safe with him, so don’t hesitate to try something outside your comfort zone, especially if it means revving up your sex life.