Need to rekindle the spark in your relationship? Reaffirm your love the old-school way — with pen, paper and some words he won’t be able to forget.
Forget texts and emails. If you really want to treat your partner to a romantic message, then write a good old-fashioned love letter. Whether you live miles apart or in the same apartment, penning a heartfelt note can have a powerful effect on your relationship. Here’s everything you need to know to write the perfect love letter.
Figure out what you want to say
What’s the message you hope to convey in your letter? Do you want to say thank you? I’m sorry? Or simply provide a record of your time together? Remember that a letter can be kept forever and read over and over — it has a permanence the spoken word doesn’t. What is it you really want your partner to know forever? Make a point-form list of ideas you want to get across, then figure out how you can illustrate them to your partner in your first draft.
Write from the heart
Whichever memories or thoughts you choose to get your points across, make them honest and personal. This isn’t a greeting card; it’s a love letter! Don’t worry about trying to be as sexy as E.L. James or as romantic as Nicholas Sparks. Write using the same voice you use when you talk to your partner. It’s for his eyes only, so be as candid as you are when you do talk one on one.
It’s easiest to write your feelings as you’re feeling them, so start writing in a moment when you feel really passionate about your partner. For example, if he just did something sweet for you, if you just had a great night out or if you were just looking at photos of your last vacation together — anytime you get a surge of excitement when you think about him. When you feel it, jot down your thoughts in the moment. That way your letter will be sincere.
Relive your romantic memories together
If you’re at a loss for what to say, start by describing a few memories you think sum up what you love most about your partner. Maybe it’s the first time you saw him, the first time you spent the night together or even the most recent night. Just start writing! Stream of consciousness writing is a great way to uncover your true feelings. You might be surprised at how articulate you can be when you allow your heart to guide your pen.
Dream about the future
Writing about your hopes for your future together will affirm your commitment and add an element of fantasy to your letter. Be imaginative, and make it fun to read. Be confident in your assertions. He’ll love hearing how wanted he is as much as you would. Especially if you’re in a long-distance relationship, writing about the future is a great way to keep the flame burning.
Amp up the sensory experience of reading
Make the act of reading the letter more sensual by handwriting it on nice paper, spraying it with your perfume and literally sealing it with a kiss. You might feel a little ridiculous doing this, but the very act of writing a love letter is an example of fearless admiration. It’s a bold move, but it’s supposed to be. As long as you remain yourself in it, there’s no way it’ll be cheesy.