Throughout your mid-to-late twenties and thirties, you may notice that more of your friends are getting engaged, married or even having babies, and this may have you feeling pressured to do the same. Whether it’s family or societal pressures and expectations, it could seem that everyone else is moving on with life, while you feel stuck. But there are reasons to favour where you are in your life over your friends’ lives and commitments. Below are some things to remember when you’re feeling pressured to settle down.
You have time to find the right person
A ring on your finger means you’re either engaged or married and tied to someone for life. Being single means you have the opportunity to meet different people and figure out what you’re looking for in a life partner. If you’re in a serious relationship, you’re probably moving in the direction of getting married when it feels right, and there’s no rush. Embrace your single life by meeting new people and learning more about what you want and who feels right for you, at your own pace.
You can focus on your career
You have the freedom to spend time on your career. If you don’t like your job, you’re able to pick a new one or even go back to school, because you don’t have financial commitments to provide for a family of your own. You can also spend long days at the office if needed, without feeling pressure or guilt for neglecting a husband or kids. Bored of your surroundings? Not having any commitments or obligations, you can apply for jobs away from home and work abroad.
You have the freedom to explore whatever you like, whenever
Being single and without kids means you are free to do whatever you like, whenever you like. Whether it’s travelling the world, going back to school or finding a new hobby, you have the time and money to spend on yourself. You also have quiet “me time” at your disposal, when you can enjoy doing simple things on your own that make you happy.
Next time you’re feeling sorry for yourself while your girlfriend talks your ear off about her upcoming wedding or asks you to help put together a baby registry, think about these reasons to enjoy being single. That’s not to say married women or mothers don’t enjoy their lives; it just means you should enjoy your single life and freedom while you can. When you’re meant to reach the next stage of your life, you will, and you might just find you’ll miss the single days from time to time. There’s no point in wasting time throwing yourself a pity party — live and enjoy your life at your own pace.