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How soon should I call him back?

It’s hard to know when to call a guy back. You don’t want to seem too into him and you don’t want to give off the impression that you are too hard to get. So how soon should you call back?

Woman calling a guy

Find a reason

It’s always good to find a reason to call back. After a first date, it’s always sweet to call the next day, thanking him for dinner/movies/the ride, whatever it is. If he doesn’t pick up right away, leave a voicemail stating the reason behind your call. This will save you from being viewed as clingy.

Avoid playing hard to get

Don’t play games. If the guy called you, there’s no need for you to pretend that you’re super busy and need to call him three days later. If you are interested, simply pick up the phone and answer, or call him back when it’s a good time for you to talk. If you feel like you just want to check on him and see what he’s up to a few days after you last talked, then do it. As long as you don’t overdo it, there’s no harm in being warm and showing your interest. Keep the conversation light and short, and he will drag it on if he wants to talk.

Don’t always be the one to call

Now, if you call and you notice that it’s always you who calls, then stop and think before you dial his number one more time. Let it be for a few days and see if he calls or not. You don’t want him to talk to you or see you simply out of convenience; you want to make sure that he is as eager as you are.

Don’t call back multiple times

A lot of us fall into this trap — impatience. If you call him and he doesn’t pick up, don’t call him three times and don’t send a text asking how he is. Especially when you are still getting to know a guy, you don’t want to give off the impression that you are too controlling and clingy, and you don’t want to scare him away. Call once and keep busy till you hear from him.

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