During the first few months of a relationship, passionate sessions between the sheets are on the menu virtually every day – and then life intervenes. Work, kids, bills, the mortgage, friends, family and general exhaustion … it all adds up to a busy schedule and lacklustre sex life, and you deserve better!
The act of injecting a little zest and romance back into your love life is easier than you think: simply follow these tips and you’ll be flipping through the Kama Sutra in no time.
Remember when you were in high school, and you and your boyfriend could make out for hours on end? Once we’re out of our teens, it’s easy to forget how fun and exciting a passionate make-out session can be. Kissing can also become habitual or — worse still — bypassed altogether during foreplay, so commit to a solid make-out sesh, and see where it takes you.
Be a tease
Anticipation is the key to really saucy sex, and flirting and teasing serves to build anticipation and generate a sense of urgency. All of this can contribute to more passionate love-making and a bigger, better release during sex. Send a kinky text, or fire off a suggestive email — or simply whisper in his ear at your next dinner party that you’re not wearing any knickers. That usually does the trick!
Enjoy an aphrodisiac
There are loads of hot and spicy foods that are said to make you sweaty and excitable, so make a meal of it! Chili, for example, contains Capsaicin, a substance that releases endorphins, stimulates nerve endings and increases your heart rate. Almonds are high in libido-boosting vitamin E, while goji berries have long been considered a potent sexual tonic throughout Asia.
Set a date
You need to prioritise your sex life and give it the time and attention it deserves, rather than squeezing sex in between folding the laundry and watching the late news. Scheduling a date isn’t all that spontaneous, but it does allow you the time to connect and focus on each other without distractions. Besides, a romantic restaurant setting might be the perfect opportunity for you to let your lover know you’re sans underwear (see point 2!)
Invest in sexy accessories
A pair of sexy stilettos definitely falls into this category — men tend to go crazy for a lady wearing high heels and not much else — but we’re really referring to top-drawer accessories of the battery-operated kind. Grab your partner and visit an adult store so you can shop for toys together!