What someone eats and how they eat it have become hot topics these days and nowhere is that more evident than on social media.
Candace Cameron Bure found this out the hard way when she posted on Facebook about her 5-day cleanse and was inundated with comments telling her she is already too skinny, shouldn’t be trying to lose weight and should just “eat a steak” already. Hundreds of people weighed in with their opinions on her food, her body and even her sanity.
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I think this says less about her and a lot more about us and how controversial food — yes, food — has become. Cameron’s post has over 7,000 likes; compare that to CNN’s most recent update on Gaza with a mere 2,137. The point is that we’d rather discuss someone’s diet than their religion, their politics or even their clothing.
Cameron posted a response later that day saying she wasn’t doing the cleanse to lose weight but rather to rid her body of toxins and get back on track after a “very indulgent” week in Napa. (Sounds fun to me.)
She wrote, “Since being off Dancing With The Stars, my body has struggled to find its balance after having danced up to 8 hours a day and eating so clean. After going back to my normal eating habits as well as extended over indulgent summertime vacation eating and normal exercise routine, my body has endured some confusion causing some minor health issues. That is private, so I will not be going into detail, but this cleanse is just a step to getting it back on track because I know that food is a key source to healthy living.”
It’s not only celebs that get criticized for their diets and we can all learn something from her about how to respond to the haters.
1. Educate them
Often people react without knowing what “vegan” or “paleo” is much less why you choose to eat that way. You don’t owe anyone an explanation but it doesn’t hurt to give a couple of sentences explaining how it helps you feel healthier.
2. Set boundaries
In the post she says she won’t discuss her private health problems and then adds at the end that she won’t be responding to any more comments criticizing her cleanse. It’s totally OK to tell people what you’re comfortable with discussing.
3. Don’t apologize
You eat the way you eat because presumably you put a lot of thought into what you are doing and you don’t need to apologize for doing what feels best for your body.
4. Don’t become a diet pusher
It’s a natural response to people pushing food on you to want to push your diet on them but resist that urge. If they’re interested, they will ask questions and if not at least things won’t be awkward the next time you see each other.
5. Use humor
Candace didn’t really crack any jokes (Come on, DJ Tanner. I know you have it in you!) but one of the best ways to diffuse a situation is to make a joke. Plus, we could all stand to take ourselves a little less seriously.