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Why your significant other might not be your soul mate

Your BFF has been there for you through thick and thin, boyfriends and breakups… and she’ll still be there, no matter what. If that’s not the definition of a soul mate, we don’t know what is.

Kelly Rowland just married her sweetheart, Tim Witherspoon, but she admits he’s not her soul mate.

Not even close.

“I believe soul mates are not just in relationships, but they’re in friendships,” the mom-to-be told HelloBeautiful in a new interview.

Her real soul mates are the ladies that have been there for her for years.

“I have soul mates through Beyoncé and Michelle [Williams] and Angie [Beyince] and Solange and La La [Anthony],” she continued, adding that they just have an intuitive connection that can’t be explained. “If there’s something on my heart or my mind, before I can even pick up the phone, one of them is calling me saying, ‘What are you doing? Are you OK?'”

Research has shown that finding true besties is as elusive as finding romantic love. According to researchers at Cornell University, we have plenty of casual social connections, but only two people we can call true confidantes.

Finding true friendship doesn’t seem as daunting as finding romantic love. No questions about the status of the relationship; no 2 a.m. calls to “hang out.” It just happens, which is the way we’ve always envisioned finding our soul mates.

Rowland’s revelation reminds us that Candace Bushnell was totally right when she wrote Sex and the City.

“Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates and guys are just people to have fun with.”

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