Come on, ladies, it’s 2014. If you haven’t dated outside your cultural or ethnic background, you’re potentially missing out on some amazing men and experiences. Here are 15 reasons why it’s a great idea to expand your dating horizons.
When I first dabbled on OKCupid (for research purposes only, mind you), I was astounded by how many people indicated they only wanted to date within their race. Dating only white people — or black, or Asian, or Hispanic — seems like a dumb hill to die on, especially considering all the reasons why interracial dating is pretty darn spectacular.
1. Confidence is a turn-on
Most people who choose to date outside their race are fairly confident, because they can’t care about what others think of them. And, obviously, confidence is hot.
2. Wild love
Moreover, it’s a lot harder for your man to be bad at lovin’ and sexy-time when he’s confident about who he is as a person.
3. Turn a few heads
Interracial couples are striking. Granted, sometimes interracial couples garner the wrong kind of attention, but haters are gonna hate. You’ll get a fair share of positive attention, too.
4. Learn to laugh a little
You’re going to make mistakes, say the wrong things and stumble into faux pas. And it’s OK. Maybe race relations need a little levity.
5. Love that point of view
When surrounded by people of your own race, it’s easy to believe that everyone holds your perspective. Sorry, they don’t. Interracial dating will give you the ability to understand perspectives from different races and cultures.
6. A religious dimension
Even if you and your new beau come from the same religious background, your differing racial heritage will bring a new dimension to your faith. For instance, you’re likely to experience the Christian faith differently between a quiet baptism and a gospel brunch.
7. Increased options
There are just more fish in the sea when you’re willing to consider all the fish.
8. Hooray for traditions
Holidays are no longer just holidays. Fourth of July, for instance, takes on added meaning if you celebrate with a boyfriend who was born in a different country. You might find your traditions take on more meaning when you see them with the eyes of another person.
9. It’s more than words
You’ll learn more about the nuances of communication. Navigating different cultures means that you’ll turn into an expert on non-verbal cues, tone and listening.
10. A delicious smorgasbord
We would be remiss if we didn’t mention the sheer delight of enjoying ethnic foods. Whether we’re talking moussaka, tamales or baklava, your taste buds will thank you for dating outside the box.
11. Let’s get cultured
Cultures are fun, especially when you’re with someone you love. Learn a new language, visit a new country and enjoy a new holiday with your beau to really get to know him.
12. This gives new meaning to “family”
Many people cite their families as the reason they avoid interracial dating. But once a skeptical family surrounds an interracial couple, we swear that the love is basically quadrupled.
13. Empowered up
It’s empowering to know that you can make the dating decisions that you feel are best for you, regardless of skin color and public opinion.
14. Who said anything about taboo?
That said, public opinion on interracial dating has changed wildly in the last few decades. Now, over eight percent of all new marriages are interracial, and Americans overwhelmingly approve of interracial pairings. Have no fear.
15. Love conquers all, bro
In those rare instances that public opinion is against you and your beloved, it’s powerful to stand up for what you believe and feel. We all need to learn how to stand up for ourselves, and there’s no better reason for courage than love.
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