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Self-lovin’ sex positions

Why should couples get to have all the fun with new sex positions? When you’re solo and feeling amorous, try one (or two) of these twists on your usual self-love routine.

Testing out new masturbation techniques by yourself will score you two very important sexual health benefits that go beyond simply having a new kind of O (though getting off is pretty important, we have to admit):

First, you’ll get more orgasms in the long run — and hotter sex if getting it on with your long-term partner has become a snooze.

“Women who masturbate are more likely to have orgasms during partnered sex, and we believe that this finding is related to an increase in comfort and knowledge with regard to her body,” says Jessica O’Reilly, Ph.D., author of The Little Book of Kink. “By experimenting with different positions, you can discover new pathways to orgasm and stave off the sexual ruts that arise due to repetition and monotony.”

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You’ll also feel more comfortable speaking up about your needs during partnered sex.

“The more you know your body, what you like and what you don’t, the more you can communicate with current and future partners about what you want, need and crave,” says Shanna Katz, M.Ed., ACS, author of Your Pleasure Map.

Time to close your bedroom door and get down with your sexy self!


Over the hump

Sex position for self love

How you do it: Lie on the bed on your stomach and place a pillow or two below your stomach and hips. Use your hands or a toy (or both!) between your body and the pillow to rev things up.
Why it’s awesome: “The pillows angle your hips up, which opens up new sensations. It also uses the tension of your leg muscles, which can feel very different for you,” Katz says.

Opening up

Sex position for self love

How you do it: Sit on a chair that doesn’t have arms, like a dining room or folding chair. Tuck your feet and ankles around the chair legs, leaving your legs open.
Why it’s awesome: “It provides much more access to all of the delicious bits between your legs, and when you climax, you can brace your legs against the chair legs. By exposing more parts of your vulva, you will experience some new — and sometimes even more intense — sensations than you usually do,” Katz says.

The leg shaver

Sex position for self love

How you do it: In the shower, place one foot on the side of the tub or shower seat, allowing full open access to your vulva. (If you don’t have anything to prop your foot on, simply lean back against a wall and move one knee to the side.) Use your fingers or use the removable showerhead stream to tease, or pick up your favorite water-resistant vibrator for guaranteed orgasms. Or rotate among all three!
Why it’s awesome: “Masturbating while standing is an awesome position style that too many women ignore,” says Sadie Allison, Ph.D., author of Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman’s Guide to Self-Pleasure. “The Leg Shaver not only gives you great access to your vulva and vagina, but it also lends itself to a little leg and core muscle toning, as you need to work a little harder to keep your body weight vertical. This, in turn, naturally flexes your pelvic floor muscles, offering more sensation to the ‘feel-good’ nerves in your genitals’ erectile tissue.”


Sex position for self love

How you do it: Start on your knees on the bed (or another comfortable surface), with your body upright. Spread them as much or as little as you’d like, so it is comfortable for you. You can modify it however you would like. Lean back and support yourself on one arm, or lean forward or even up against a wall.
Why it’s awesome: “Because you can modify this in so many ways — changing angles, using multiple toys for penetration and/or external stimulation — you can discover new spots and new things that get your motor going. Leaning forward and back can provide new sensations, and it allows you to open up the rest of your body for exploration and play with your fingers, toys, even nipple clamps. Experiment and have fun,” Katz says.

The solo snake

Sex position for self love

How you do it: Lie on your stomach and grind your pelvic bone and clitoris against a hand or a vibrating toy beneath you.
Why it’s awesome: “The weight of your body adds extra friction against the hood of your clitoris, and the back-and-forth grinding strokes the shaft of your clitoris as it becomes erect,” O’Reilly says.

On your knees!

Sex position for self love

How you do it: Kneel on the floor or bed with your knees wide open so that you can press your vaginal lips against a firm surface (your hands, the mattress, a pillow or a toy) beneath you.
Why it’s awesome: “You can rock back and forth, slide forward and backward, or roll the hips in a circular fashion according to your own preferences,” O’Reilly says. “In this position, the extra blood flow to your pelvic region can help with both arousal and orgasm.”

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