When it comes to bad relationships, celebrity therapist Lisa Haisha says the lives of celebrities aren’t that different than the people who follow them.
Finding your authentic voice is one of the most important things you can do when striving for a life free of pain and anger, author and celebrity therapist Lisa Haisha says.
Known as a Hollywood soul blazer, Haisha’s client list includes Hollywood elite actors, writers and directors, who she works with to bring raw truth into their roles and lives.
Just like the people who often look up to them, celebrities experience painful relationships — even abusive relationships that stay out of the camera’s spotlight.
Haisha offers this advice on how to free your mind and body from pollution and ultimately lead a life of good health and empowerment.
Know the signs
Is your relationship full of secrets? Does bullying or lying occur? Do you feel tension when you are about to see your significant other? Does your gut say, “Run!”?
These are all signs of a bad — and even dangerous — relationship, Haisha said.
These types of relationships can eat a person’s soul alive, causing her to lie about her relationship to family and friends, feel sick and tired all the time, and feel like her significant other is always trying to change her.
We are all the same when it comes to suffering from the hurtful acts of others, Haisha said.
“Exactly the same,” she says. “I have coached and counseled a royal and several A-listers who were dealing with a cheating spouse, betrayal, financial loss or financial windfalls.”
The first step in getting out of a bad relationship is to go within, she says. Sit in silence and meditate on truth, focusing on solutions and forgiveness.
“Get help from a qualified counselor, life coach or therapist, getting unbiased feedback,” she said.
The people immediately around you can make a difference in how well you move on from a poor relationship, Haisha says.
“Community really helps,” she said. “Surrounding yourself with people who are going through what you’re going through can help you feel supported and not so vulnerable and alone.”
Take other steps
Whether it’s a bad relationship, bad job or other bad circumstance in your life, keeping yourself busy and focusing on others can help you return to a good point in your life and a feeling of empowerment.
Haisha suggests meditation, venturing out into nature, giving back, volunteer work, joining a community of like-minded people and surrounding yourself with friends and family.
Find that voice
“Remember that your thoughts are powerful,” Haisha says. “If you have negative thoughts filled with fear and anger, it certainly will manifest in the body.”
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