We often hear about Hollywood marriages that last five minutes in the tabloid headlines, but many successful couples have stuck together through thick and thin without making a big day out of it. They didn’t bother with a fancy gown and a celebrity wedding planner with picture-perfect photos to be sold to an entertainment magazine. Nope, they are rewriting what it means to have a partnership without all of the legal complications.
Just ask OGs like Oprah Winfrey and Goldie Hawn. They have this coupledom-without-a-marriage-license thing down pat. Do you ever hear of any personal drama between them and their significant others? (You know, Stedman Graham and Kurt Russell, no big deal.) But a lot of younger couples are finding that same bliss and starting a family without ever walking down that aisle, like Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling.
Oprah, for one, has no regrets about canceling her wedding to Graham over two decades ago. “Both he and I now say, ‘If we had married, we would not be together,'” she explained to The Independent. “No question about it — we would not stay married, because of what that would have meant to him, and I would have had my own ideas about it.” So take a little life lesson from the talk show queen, marriage isn’t for everyone, so you do you, my friends.
Find out who else is keeping their love blossoming without all of the wedding day fanfare, some of the names might surprise you — including the British comedian who has Goldie and Oprah beat when it comes to his long-term relationship.
A version of this article was originally published on July 2021.