When do you talk to your BF about kids?
Comedian Chelsea Handler just admitted that she doesn't want to have kids. We're pretty sure her boyfriend feels the same way, but when is the right time to bring up the kids-or-no-kids question?
Chelsea Handler wants to make one thing clear: She's not having kids... like, ever.
"I don't think I'd be a great mother," the 38-year-old told talk-show host Amanda de Cadenet last week.
"I don't want to have a kid and have it raised by a nanny. I don't have the time to raise a child. Childhood was heartbreaking enough for anybody. I don't know that I could handle my own child, especially if I had a girl, going through what I went through growing up. Not that it was so traumatic, but in many ways, it was in your own way."
We're pretty sure her boyfriend, hotelier André Balazs, is down with the decision, given that he's 58 with two daughters from a previous marriage.
But, what happens in a relationship when you have differing opinions about kids? Take Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling for example. The Place Beyond the Pines pair seem to have differing opinions on kids, judging from past comments.
"I don't wanna have kids," Mendes said in 2007. "I love the little suckers; they're so cute but I love sleep so much and I worry about everything."
Gosling, on the other hand, can't wait to have children.
"I'd like to be making babies but I'm not, so I'm making movies," he said in 2011 (swoon). "When someone comes along, I don't think I'll be able to do both and I'm fine with that. I'll make movies until I make babies."
The two are pretty serious, so we have to wonder if they've had that "talk" yet. And yes, it's possible that Mendes could change her mind, but not necessarily — and neither side should have to "give in" just because the other does (or doesn't) want little mini-mes running around.
So, we want to know: At what point do you bring up kids in a relationship? Is it a deal breaker if he doesn't want them and you do (or vice versa)?