The 28-year-old actress is learning to move on and grow up after her marriage of eight years ended last year.
At 18, Wilde married Italian Prince Tao Ruspoli. Last week, she sat down with Amanda de Cadenet on her Lifetime show The Conversation. She talked about how you can be happy with the person you’re with, but still realize you aren’t meant to be married to that person.
“I think I finally started being really honest with myself,” she told Cadenet.
“And that is a scary thing to do, to really look in the mirror and say, ‘I am the luckiest person on earth, there is this extraordinary person who’s my partner in life, everything seems perfect, why aren’t I happy? There’s something wrong.’”
Wilde and Ruspoli had built a new house, and Wilde had thought for a while that it may help things.
“[When] a lot of people get divorced they just finished a huge renovation on their house, because I think you tried,” she said. “You don’t want to break up with someone, you don’t want to end a marriage. Especially if you really like the person. You just know there is something off and so you try to change everything else. And we basically built a new house. The day it was finished was when I knew it wasn’t the house.”
Wilde goes on to say that she felt getting married so young changed the way she would have grown up otherwise.
“I really had a sense that I had stunted my growth. I knew the only way I was going to grow the f*** up was to learn to take care of myself,” she said.
Wilde was most recently linked to SNL actor Jason Sudeikis.
The episode also features Sarah Silverman, Crystal Renn and Arianna Huffington. The show is executive produced by Cadenet and Demi Moore.