Eva Longoria on Tony Parker’s affair: Trying not to judge

Eva Longoria has been mostly mum on the details surrounding her split for ex-husband Tony Parker. She talks to Amanda de Cadenet for Lifetime and finally reveals how she was able to get answers from Parker and her ability to move forward with her life.

Eva Longoria talks Tony Parker's affair for Lifetime.Eva Longoria split from NBA player Tony Parker in a very public divorce amid allegations of infidelity on Parker’s part. Longoria didn’t say much to press outlets but it was soon revealed Parker engaged in hundreds of salacious text messages with a fellow teammates wife, Erin Barry. Longoria and Parker’s divorce was finalized 2011 and she moved on with Penelope Cruz’s younger brother, Eduardo Cruz.

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Longoria sat down with Amanda de Cadenet for a one-on-one interview for Lifetime’s show The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet. Eva told Amanda it was hard for her not to judge Parker when she discovered his illicit text messages, but her need to understand his motives compelled her to attempt to remain neutral. “I really wanted to provide a pillow for him to say and express why,” said Longoria. “Because I really wanted to know why. I’m not going [to] judge you. I’m not going to be mad in this moment. I’ll be mad later… People say, ‘What grace!’ And it wasn’t that. I really wanted to know, and if you genuinely want to get something out of somebody, you have to not judge.”

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Eva doesn’t disclose what reasoning Parker gave for his wrongdoings, but Longoria says that being able to separate his actions from herself was critical for moving on. “It was definitely not about me,” said Eva. “Knowing the truth didn’t make me feel better, but it helped me understand.” She adds, “I am so secure in who I am. I really am. And I’m not conceited. I just think, ‘Wow, okay, that’s the life you want to live.'”

While it appeared that Eva Longoria broke up with Eduardo Cruz in March 2012, she tells Lifetime the pair are back together and very happy. “I’m in a transitional state where I have no rules and I have no boundaries, and I don’t really want to put those back up… I feel like I am just getting started.”

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