Jennie Garth has heartfelt words for fellow divorcees

Mar 30, 2012 at 7:06 p.m. ET

Though her marriage to Peter Facinelli has come to an end after 11 years, Jennie Garth clarifies that she's no victim -- and no other divorcee needs to be either.

Jennie Garth has advice for fellow divorceesJennie Garth may be oddly public about her divorce from Peter Facinelli, but she does have ulterior motives for being so open about what is usually a private family matter.

"I know how hard it is," Garth told People of divorce. "I've said many times to myself, 'I can't imagine that happening to me.' It was the unimaginable to me. But guess what, it happened and I got through it."

Ironically, the separation comes at an interesting time in her life. "As I turn 40, I want to share my life with other women," said Garth. "I've gradually been making my way to this point in my life. I want to share my voice."

So what advice does she have for fellow divorcees?

"You can feel really bad about yourself when you're going through a divorce. You can feel like a failure. And that's not a good feeling. [By sharing my story] maybe it'll help someone. I've gone through this and so can you."

Though it's only been two weeks since the public announcement, she admitted that she understands the path that's led to this point in her 11-year marriage to Peter Facinelli.

"At first, I wanted to say that [our marriage] is not working for him and he's the one that's not happy," she revealed. "But when I really looked into how I was feeling, I could see it was the best thing for both of us. I didn't want to admit it, because I didn't want to let him go."

She looks forward to the greater good that will come from this split.

"I hope I don't come off as pathetic and sad, because I'm not," Garth added. "I want to be a symbol of getting through something like this intact. I've gone through the darkest parts and I'm coming out and I even feel gratitude for having gone through it."

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