The Spelling-McDermott’s are back on television, giving viewers an inside look as they tackle marriage, parenthood and life in the Hollywood fast lane in their Oxygen Reality series, Tori & Dean Home Sweet Hollywood.
Tori and Dean sat down with She Knows to give us the scoop on their reality show’s next season.
SheKnows: Do you worry about the reality show curse and that — like so many other reality show marriages — yours will go the way of divorce too?
Dean McDermott: I’ve never believed in the reality show curse. If anything, filming it (Tori and Dean) and letting cameras in our home has brought us closer together. We’re also fortunate to work with same crew for the past five seasons. Our cameramen are like uncles to our kids; it’s a real family atmosphere. Sure, there are moments when filming gets a little rough, so maybe I’ll take a moment and a deep breath, and then we’ll continue filming. We’re committed to being as honest as we possibly can, even when it’s not always the easiest thing to do.
SheKnows: What about critics who say your reality show, like many others, is simply a series of scripted, rehearsed moments?
Tori Spelling: Honestly, I’m probably not that good of an actress! Going into our fifth season, Dean and I have developed am unbelievable bond with our viewers. They tell us how grateful they are that we give them the real deal. I think that’s what makes us so relatable to our audience: We’re dealing with same normal things that every real relationship goes through. And this season, we give a real intimate look into our relationship.
Dean McDermott: To be honest, I think the reality audience has become pretty savvy and can tell a produced moment from an authentic one.
SheKnows: What do you think is the secret to the success of your marriage — especially in light of the fact that so many celebrity marriages seem to be succumbing to infidelity recently?
Tori Spelling: We ‘re like every other normal marriage. We’re both working, doing the best we can in our relationship and taking it one day at a time. The thing that people need to remember is that marriages implode every day, and most relationships don’t work out. Unfortunately, in Hollywood, there’s just more of a spotlight on it because you’re a celebrity. We have fights like everyone else, but we also have a really solid relationship that we’re committed to.
SheKnows: Do you find it hard to let the cameras into your lives? What was it like having to play out such a personal argument with your mom in front of millions of people?
Tori Spelling: The truth is that press often creates things that haven’t happened. The reason Dean and I chose to do this show was that it was our way of showing our truth and reality. We get to give our perspective, good or bad, and let our viewers know what’s really happening.
SheKnows: So, what’s a typical day like in the McDermott-Spelling household?
Dean McDermott: A typical day in our life is pretty much like any other working parent’s life. We take our kids to school, pick them up… just being involved in their day-to-day activities, play dates and birthday parties. Any moment when we’re not working, we like to hang out in our house, in our playroom with our kids. We also love playing on the trampoline in the backyard and getting in as much family time as possible.
SheKnows: So far, Dancing With the Stars has had three 90201 alums. Do you think you’ll be next?
Tori Spelling: There’s definitely been quite a few people from 90210, but with two young kids at home, I’m not sure I’d be able to be apart from them for six weeks. My son Liam actually loves the show and keeps asking why it’s not on every day. Personally, I’d love to see Dean on the show and would pick Edyta to be his partner!
SheKnows: So, we understand that, in the bathroom tissue debate, the Spelling-McDermott household will only “roll over” from now on! How did you come to that conclusion?
Tori Spelling: Being a couple and a family, we’ve had this debate at home for a while; I roll over and Dean rolls under, so we were a perfect match to publicly debate this topic with America.
Dean McDermott: Yes, it’s true: All us Team Unders got our butts kicked, and, since I’ve committed to this, from now we’ll be rolling over in our household.
Tori Spelling: I’m really excited because now we’re officially changing all the toilet paper rolls over in our house!