Stephen “tWitch” Boss and Allison Holker just dismantled the argument that white privilege doesn’t — and they didn’t even say a word. The Ellen DeGeneres Show emcee and his wife took part in a TikTok challenge called “Check Your Privilege,” in which people are asked a series of questions about various life experiences.
For the challenge, participants are asked to put up all 10 fingers. Then, for every scenario mentioned that they’ve experienced personally, they’re to put down one finger (yes, similar to that old college favorite “Never Have I Ever”). So, joined by 4-year-old son Maddox Laurel, Boss and Holker sat before the camera and put their up in front of them. The first prompt? “Put a finger down if you have been called a racial slur.” Down went one of Boss’s fingers.
As the video continued, Boss put finger after finger down. Followed in a store unnecessarily? Finger down. Accused of not being able to afford something expensive? Finger down. Had fear in your heart while being stopped by the police? Finger down. Bullied solely because of your race? Finger down. In fact, Boss had put all 10 fingers down before the questions were even finished.
As for Holker, she only put one finger down, when asked if she ever had to teach her child how not to get killed by the police. The video finishes with a powerful prompt, asking, “Any fingers left? That’s privilege.”
In addition to Maddox, the couple has two other children: daughters Weslie, 12, and Zaia, 6.
On Monday, Boss and Holker spoke out about their feelings regarding the tension in the country following the May 25 murder of George Floyd by a Minneapolis police officer. “We’re figuring out just how to navigate the way in which we have to lead our family to make the world safer for this guy and his sisters,” Boss said as he picked up Maddox. “We just want to take time to figure it out just like the rest of all of us.”
Holker encouraged fans to take this time to educate themselves (and allow themselves to be educated by others). “Hear the people that are speaking out that feel pain,” she urged. “Instead of jumping at the chance to tell them that they are wrong and that something doesn’t exist. Listen. Do your homework. Pay attention and get involved in a healthy manner.”
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