Marriage is wonderful, yes. But it’s also work — and if you don’t do the work, it can lead to little issues that fester until they become much bigger problems. Case in point? Tom Brady and Bündchen attended marriage counseling to address dissatisfaction and resentment in their relationship, a fact revealed by the quarterback in a new refreshingly honest (and commendable) interview.
Brady got candid with Howard Stern for the radio personality’s SiriusXM show on Wednesday, admitting that he and Bündchen went through a particularly rough patch around two years ago. “A couple of years ago, [Gisele] didn’t feel like I was doing my part for the family,” the football pro confessed.
He continued, explaining, “She felt like I would play football all season and she would take care of the house, and then all of a sudden when the season ended, I’d be like, ‘Great, let me get into all of my other business activities. Let me get into my football training,’ and she’s sitting there going, ‘Well when are you going to do things for the house? When are you going to take the kids to school and do that?'”
It turned out to be a critical juncture. Said Brady, “That was a big part of our marriage that I had to, like, check myself because she was like, ‘I have goals and dreams, too.'”
From the outside looking in via social media, it would be easy to assume Brady and Bündchen have an ideal relationship. The image of their marriage projected in the tiny squares on Instagram is one of fun, passion, family and, practically, perfection —which is why we love the fact Brady copped to the couple’s real-life issues and how they worked through them. And for Brady, this meant cutting way back on his football-related extracurriculars.
“Because with my family, the situation wasn’t great. [Bündchen] wasn’t satisfied with our marriage, so I needed to make a change in that.” At first, he admits, he was “resentful” toward his wife for feeling the way she did. But that all changed with one gesture on Bündchen’s part.
“She actually wrote me a letter, and it was a very thought-out letter that she wrote to me and I still have it and I keep it in a drawer and I read it,” Brady shared. “It’s a very heartfelt letter for her to say this is where I’m at in our marriage, and it’s a good reminder for me that things are going to change and evolve over time. What happened and what worked for us 10 years ago won’t work for us forever because we are growing in different ways.”
Ultimately, it took marriage counseling and compromise to get the couple back on track. Emphasized Brady, “The point of a relationship is that it has to work for both [partners]. You better work on both because if you don’t then it’s not sustainable.”
Before you go, check out some of Brady and Bündchen’s past PDA moments.