Hilary Duff Was Mom-Shamed for How She Breastfed Her Daughter & We’re So Tired

Another day, another celebrity mom being shamed. Hilary Duff was mom-shamed for how she breastfed her daughter, Banks. The Younger actress gave birth to her daughter, Banks Violet Bair, on October 25, 2018. By March, she was back on the set of the TV Land series for its sixth season. For fans who watch the show, seeing Duff run around New York City in the stylish ensembles and high heels of her character Kelsey Peters would be grueling for anyone. But five-months postpartum, Duff made it happen with season 6 of Younger premiering last night.

“Coming back from work so soon after having a baby is so hard, and I think women are the strongest working people out there,” Duff told Glamour. Given intricacies of a healthy work-life balance, Duff had a slew of logistics to work through, between long work days on set and making  her newborn a priority. “I’m still nursing Banks. I’m getting to the tail end of like, ‘I can’t do this anymore, something’s gotta give!’ Pumping at work, bringing her to a nursing session, and juggling our 16-hour days. It’s f⁠—ing crazy.”

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THIS ONE’S FOR THE LADIES Just a few thoughts that I wanted to share on Breast-feeding. Last week was my last week nursing Banks (my six month old) I am a working mom of two. My goal was to get my little girl to six months and then decide if I (and her of course) wanted to keep going. Let me tell you. Pumping at work sucks. I had zero down time and am usually pumping in a hair and make up trailer while four hands work to get me ready for the next scene with lots of other people around. Even if I had the luxury to be in my own room, it’s not even considered a “break” because you have to sit upright for the milk to flow into the bottles! Plus you are having your damn nipples tugged at by an aggressive machine that makes an annoying sound, that echoes through your head day and night (I swear that machine and I had many conversations at midnight and 3 am)! Ttttthen having to find someplace to sterilize bottles and keep your milk cold (ok I’m done with that rant lol)! Anyway, I didn’t know this because with Luca I didn’t work until he was about nine months old, so I didn’t pump very often. Your milk supply drastically drops when you stop feeding as often and lose the actual contact and connection with your baby (😞). So I was eating all the feunugreek goats butt blessed thistle fennel cookies/drops/shakes/pills I could get my hands on! It was maddening. (Does fenugreek make anyone else smell like maple syrup and rubber gloves?…not chill) With all of this complaining, I want to say I enjoyed (almost) every moment of feeding my daughter. Felt so lucky to be so close to her and give her that start. I know many women are not able to and for that I am sympathetic and very grateful that I could. For six wonderful months. But I needed a break. I was going to break. With the stress of a dropping milk supply and a baby that was getting bored or not caring about nursing when I was available to. I was sad and frustrated and feeling like a failure all of the time. When really I’m a bad ass rock star. Moms get high on feeling like superwoman…because we are! Doing too much, because we can! KEEP READING in the comments below 👇🏼♥️

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Duff has made her experience as a working mother a staple of her social media. Particularly on her Instagram, the actress and singer has been known to share paragraphs of stories detailing her experience with breastfeeding, pumping and her difficult pregnancy leading to baby Banks’s birth. While many women can relate to Duff’s experience with motherhood (and how the actress is shutting down stigmas relating to it), not everyone is a fan.

“I just saw a comment on my Instagram that was like, ‘Were you feeding your child solids while she was laying down?'” Duff shared with Glamour. “I’m like, You know what, I’m going to feed my daughter how I want to feed my daughter. And if that’s laying down, or hanging upside down because it works for her, we’re gonna do it.” This is just a sample of the criticism Duff has faced. In a previous post, Duff was criticized by a slew of commenters for kissing her 3-year-old son Luca on the lips.

But instead of taking on the haters, Duff has taken the high road and left the commenters for her supportive friends who offer their fair amount of clap-backs. Regardless of the opinions Duff’s commenters, the singer has made it clear she’s doing motherhood her way and using her platform for something so much greater than a cute, filtered photo.

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