If you’re like me and have been a part of Bachelor Nation since Season 1 (16 years strong), then you know to take each relationship or engagement with a grain of salt. Sure, there are some couples you root for, but they fell in love on national reality TV, and the Bachelor doesn’t historically have the best success rate — from what I can tell, 13 out of 53 couples are still together. That’s not great odds, folks.
So all the breakup news coming out of Bachelor‘s latest spin-off show, Bachelor: Winter Games, probably isn’t much of a shock. Since the season wrapped up Feb. 22, 2018, all the remaining couples have called it quits except one — Lily McManus and Courtney Dober (who are disgustingly cute and reportedly living together in Los Angeles, by the way).
The latest duo to call it quits after four months of dating is Lesley Murphy and Dean Unglert. Both took to Instagram to address the breakup, and from the looks of things, they agree the split it was mainly Unglert’s fault.
“As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that although everyone DESERVES love, it’s not something we’re entitled to,” Unglert confessed to his followers. “Love takes work. Love is compromise. Love is earned. I still have a lot of work to do on myself, a lot to prove to myself, before I’m ready for something like that.”
Murphy also posted about the breakup, telling fans she felt she owed them an explanation. “I know it’s imperative to find someone who chooses us and acknowledges our many layers who can be open and vulnerable, and most importantly, who is ready,” Murphy wrote. “To meet someone and be met. To be chosen and to choose. To love and to be loved. This is everything. All we need is that same energy reciprocated, and despite how open and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.”
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It’s a bit strange to feel the need to post about this, but I don’t think I can honestly resume my normal programming (✈️🏖🏕) without giving you an explanation – and maybe that’s the wrong word, but I just wanted to thank y’all for the love and respect you’ve shown me over the past few days. I spent 5 years away from Bachelor Nation as I lived abroad and traveled for work. I came back to Winter Games because I’ve seen this franchise work miracles before. Through The Bachelor and my journey around the world, I have made deep connections, true meaningful intimate relationships with many walks of life. I know it’s imperative to find someone who chooses us and acknowledges our many layers, who can be open and vulnerable, and most importantly, who is ready. To meet someone and be met. To be chosen and to choose. To love and to be loved. This is everything. All we need is that same energy reciprocated, and despite how open and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves. Don’t be afraid to be the one that loved the most and give everything you had, because you’ve got to find people who love like you do and who are ready. Out with the old, in with the ᴛʀᴜᴇ. It was a long winter, and I’m excited for a new season🌱🌸🌻🌷Let the spring cleaning commence. I’m ready.
Well, there you have it, Bachelor Nation. Unglert just isn’t ready for love, which is something we pretty much knew after his tumultuous relationships with Kristina Schulman and Danielle Lombard on Bachelor in Paradise. Plus, he could never handle confrontation without giggling on Rachel Lindsay’s season of The Bachelorette. Unglert’s still a kid (26 years old, to be exact) and has some growing up to do, but at least he recognizes that.
As Murphy said, it was a “long winter” and now it’s time for “spring cleaning to commence.” So, who’s ready for Bachelor in Paradise? I move we leave Unglert at home this go around.