Oprah Winfrey and her partner, Stedman Graham, have been together for more than 30 years, and they’ve never tied the knot. Wild, right? Sure, rumors have swirled around them, with various outlets suggesting they finally took the matrimonial plunge at some point or another, but as we all know, every single one of those rumors has turned out to be false. Instead, she and Graham have opted for a more progressive approach with their long-term partnership, proving to us all that marriage is not the end-all, be-all for a happily ever after.
Interestingly, though, Winfrey is revealing in a new interview with Vogue that she and Graham actually did talk marriage back in the ’90s. “Nobody believes it, but it’s true. The only time I brought it up was when I said to Stedman, ‘What would have happened if we had actually gotten married?’” she remembered. “And the answer is: ‘We wouldn’t be together.'”
She continued, “We would not have stayed together because marriage requires a different way of being in this world. His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that.”
There’s clearly not just one way to make a relationship work; relationships, like snowflakes, come in a variety of styles. It’s interesting to see this more honest and raw side of Winfrey, who is continuing to be our unofficial life guru and inspiration by telling us all how she’s made her own relationship work over the years.
It seems a little counterintuitive that Graham’s view of Oprah would change so drastically just because they made their relationship legally official, but hey, it’s clearly worked for them.