I’ll be the first to admit: I have no idea if Heard is telling the truth. There have been so many back-and-forth claims about the two that who knows?
But here’s the kicker – it doesn’t matter.
Either way, trash-talking her, calling her a “liar” and saying she’s just doing this for attention only hurts those people who are actually in abusive relationships.
Imagine for a moment that you are a woman being abused by her husband. A woman who wants desperately to find her voice, to cry for help. Yet, you look at the tabloids and see Heard as your most recent and most prominent example. A woman who came out and spoke against the domestic abuse she experienced, only to have her reputation tarnished and her image slandered. It is not an encouraging and supportive example to help you to find your voice.
The truth is, we don’t know what happened between Depp and Heard. Who can say what goes on behind closed doors between a married couple? All relationships are different. Just because Depp didn’t abuse past women he was with doesn’t mean he didn’t abuse Heard.
In a new letter, published in Porter magazine, Heard speaks to victims of domestic abuse.
“Let’s start with the truth — the cold, hard truth. When a woman comes forward to speak out about injustice or her suffering, instead of aid, respect and support, she will be met with hostility, skepticism and shame,” Heard wrote. “Her motives will be questioned and her truth ignored.”
She added, “You are not alone. You may have suffered alone behind closed doors, but you are not alone. You need to know that. I want to remind you of your strength, a strength that has been multiplied by the number of women who stand silently behind you — a truth that allowed me to break down the doors I once found myself behind.”
The response to her letter?
Please do not forget in this situation that we simply do not know what happened between Depp and Heard, and as such, we should not make judgments that could hurt people who are suffering behind closed doors.
Heard’s truthfulness aside, her message is sound. If you are a victim of domestic abuse, do not let hate keep you silent. You deserve more.