Same-sex marriage may be legal, but there are still quite a few people who think that LGBT couples should not adopt. Reasons for this opinion vary but often include some nonsense about how children who grow up with two moms or two dads are less likely to become well-adjusted adults.
After tonight’s episode of America’s Got Talent, critics of LGBT adoption may have to change their stance, as Campbell Fields proved that same-sex adoptive parents are not nearly as horrendous as haters like to think.
In many ways, Fields experienced a very unusual childhood. He was adopted by same-sex parents with a different skin color than his own. But while naysayers may regard this family structure as odd and problematic, it wasn’t a big deal for Fields when he was a child; as he admitted in an interview, his “norm was having two dads.”
Yes, Fields was bullied as a result of his family makeup, but I like to think that, given the progressive trajectory of Americans’ attitudes regarding the LGBT community, the prospect of bullying no longer needs to be a central concern for same-sex couples thinking about adoption.
Fields is incredibly grateful to his dads for giving him a wonderful childhood and encouraging him to explore his musical talents. Prior to tonight’s performance, he admitted, “I would never be here and I’d never have this opportunity if my dads hadn’t adopted me.” He’s also thankful that his mom made a tough choice and gave him up for adoption, for had he lived in a more conventional family, he probably would have experienced an impoverished childhood.
Regardless of their parents’ sexual orientation, it is normal for adopted kids to be curious about their biological parents, and Fields is no exception. Tonight’s performance was all about his feelings for his mom, who gave him up so that he could have a better life. His musical talent was impressive, of course, but I was even more taken aback by his composure and maturity, which were way beyond what I’d expect from a 14-year-old contestant. If his appearance on America’s Got Talent is any indication, his dads did a wonderful job and should never be shamed for choosing to adopt.
Sadly, Fields didn’t make it through to the live shows. But he’s only 14, so he has a long future ahead of him. He’s almost old enough for The Voice, so my fingers are crossed that I’ll see him in a blind audition in a few years.