Ashley Graham & Amy Schumer aren't feuding, so why are we reporting it that way?
Ashley Graham's super hot cover of Cosmopolitan just came out, but instead of reading about how amazing she looks or what a great step it is for women everywhere to see Graham on the mag's cover, you probably read headlines like this: “Ashley Graham calls out Amy Schumer’s ‘double standard.’” That one was from the NY Daily News. There’s also this one from The Daily Mail: “Ashley Graham blasts Amy Schumer for her anger at being labeled ‘plus-size.’” So, are Graham and Schumer feuding? Absolutely not!
After the release of Graham’s interview, in which she did comment on Schumer’s rejection of the "plus size" label, Schumer and Graham actually exchanged ideas and compliments on Twitter. You know, like adults who respect each other do — like women do, quite frequently, I might add. In the exchange of just a few tweets, Graham and Schumer shut down the stereotype that women — specifically those in positions of power — are catty or always competing with each other. Women can disagree and exchange opposing ideas without being in a “feud.”
Here’s what you need to know: the non-feud started back in April, when Glamour released a plus-size issue that featured Graham alongside other plus-size or curvy (or whatever your preferred descriptor is) celebs like Adele and Melissa McCarthy. The magazine also praised Schumer on its cover — something she noted that they did without asking her. In an Instagram post, Schumer said she did not want to be a part of the issue because she feared it sent the wrong message to young girls. Her main concern: that women would look at her “between a size 6 and an 8” body and believe that it is plus size, as opposed to the more traditional definition of plus as sizes 16 and up.
Cut to three months later. Graham referred to Schumer’s disapproval of being included on the cover of Glamour’s plus-size issue in her interview with Cosmo. “I can see both sides, but Amy talks about being a big girl in the industry. You thrive on being a big girl, but when you’re grouped in with us, you’re not happy about it? That, to me, felt like a double standard,” Graham said. Let’s break this down: Graham first starts by saying that she understands where Schumer was coming from, adds her perspective and then makes sure to clarify that it was her feeling that Schumer's rejection of the label was “a double standard.” Overall, Graham’s comments come off as more of an expression of disagreement than a declaration of war.
Schumer, being a reasonable person and not (as some of the media might like) an emotional mess, responded on Twitter, saying that she, too, understood where Graham was coming from. “I totally understand Ashley’s feelings. I don’t group myself with her because she is unbelievably beautiful. Nothing but respect for her,” Schumer tweeted.
Though Schumer did not tag Graham in her tweet, Graham responded, saying that she had nothing but “the greatest respect” for Schumer. Schumer then ended the conversation, tweeting to Graham, “Rock on girl. I’m so grateful for you. You inspire me!!!” So, no, Amy Schumer and Ashley Graham aren’t feuding. In fact, they’re both working together to prove that beauty comes in all different shapes and sizes. They just go about it differently.
Furthermore, it’s important to point out that both Schumer and Graham have good points on the issue. Schumer is right to say that it’s ridiculous that, in the fashion world — the world of celebrities and magazine covers — a size 6 or 8 is considered plus. On the other hand, Glamour was trying to be more inclusive and, as Graham stated, Schumer does frequently use her body and the fact that it doesn’t fit the Hollywood mold in her work.
So what if Schumer and Graham don't agree on this one issue? They were able to resolve their disagreement publicly and amicably, in what will hopefully be an example to young women that there’s more than one way to fight for body acceptance and that we don’t need to be fighting with each other just because the media says we should be.