Aisha Tyler and her husband Jeff Tietjens appeared to have the perfect marriage, which despite Hollywood odds, had defied the test of time. But last week, heartbreaking reports started appearing, claiming that after 22 years of marriage, the couple would be going their separate ways.
During Monday’s episode of The Talk, Tyler confirmed the reports, and it’s clear she is completely devastated over the end of her marriage.
“Other than my parents, he’s the person who has influenced me and cared for me the most. In fact, he cared for me even longer than my parents have cared for me, and it’s very hard when you love someone very much to also start to realize that maybe you want different things for your lives,” she told the panel of her co-hosts, which includes Julie Chen, Sharon Osbourne, Sara Gilbert and Sheryl Underwood. “That’s a very difficult realization to come to, and you don’t want to accept it, and you don’t want to believe it.”
Tyler also admitted that she and Tietjens had separated in January 2015, although she only filed for divorce a couple of weeks ago, but had been trying hard to work on their rebuilding their relationship.
Many may question why we are only hearing these reports now, but, aside from that, it’s Tyler’s personal life, and she should never be under any obligation to discuss it. She explained that she had chosen to remain silent because she and Tietjens were trying to work out their differences. But it was also an effort to shelter her husband from the media backlash.
“He’s not in this business. He didn’t choose this life, I chose this life,” she revealed. “It’s very unfair to drag someone into this life that doesn’t want any part of it. The only reason they’re here is because they fell in love with someone in the business. He’s a very private person. He’s a very kind-hearted person, and I didn’t want to expose him to the kind of stuff I knew was going to come when this happened.”
She continued, “And I know that maybe it’s strange for some people about why you would want to protect someone that you’re breaking up with, but I love him, and I’ll always love him.”
Tyler is obviously heartbroken, but what’s so important is how she is choosing to speak about her divorce. Instead of being bitter and slamming her husband for the failed relationship, she has nothing but good things to say about the man who has played such an important role in her life — and this endears us to Tyler even more; she is truly a woman full of dignity and respect.
More than that, she has absolutely no regrets about her relationship and revealed that the time she spent with her husband will always remain special.
“I was with this extraordinary person. I had this extraordinary love affair for 25 years of my life, and that is how I feel. I think we did it exactly right,” she shared, adding, “We loved each other passionately and lived life fully, and we’re trying to let each other go in the kindest way we possibly can, and even though we’re separating, all I want for him is joy and fulfillment and whatever he chooses to do in his life next and whatever I can do to help him do, that I want to do that.”
Beautiful words, from a strong and beautiful woman.
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