When it was first announced that Bethenny Frankel and Jason Hoppy were getting a divorce, I admit, I kind of thought it was Frankel’s fault. After all, from what we saw of Hoppy on TV, he seemed so, well, chill, and like a doting husband and father. Frankel, on the other hand, was a whirling dervish with her Skinnygirl empire and her zillion TV shows and her (let’s face it) kind of abrasive personality. After part one of the Real Housewives of New York reunion, though — and a little Internet digging — I’m totally changing my tune.
As we learned during the reunion, Frankel is under a gag order, so she hasn’t been able to divulge too much information about her divorce, but thanks to her bud Carole Radziwill — who can say whatever she wants — we now know that Hoppy is far from the person we thought him to be.
While talking with Andy Cohen, Radziwill praised Frankel for the way in which she’s been handling her current situation. “I couldn’t do it,” Radziwill said, before revealing that sometimes when Frankel calls to talk with her daughter Bryn when she’s with her dad, Hoppy won’t let her speak with Bryn. “She calls her daughter twice a day. It’s court appointed, and lots of times, her ex-husband won’t answer the phone,” Radziwill revealed. “I’ve seen her call six, seven, eight, nine times, and she wants to talk to her daughter. She wants to say hi. She’s 4. There’s so many head games being played.” To say this sounds awful is an understatement. No mother should have to deal with that.
And apparently, this sort of behavior is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how Hoppy has been handling his divorce with Frankel — at least if you believe what you read online. After doing a little digging around, it sounds like the seemingly modest guy from a good Pennsylvania family is much different than the dude we saw on Real Housewives and Bethenny Ever After. Bethenny, sending you a virtual fist bump for putting up with this. It sounds horrendous.
Here are five reasons Jason Hoppy sounds kind of like a nightmare.
1. His stare sounds frightening
According to Frankel, during the couple’s custody battle, Hoppy would allegedly “stare at [Frankel] with a menacing face.” The reality star also added that when she was bathing her daughter, Hoppy would come into the bathroom and stare at them with his arms folded. This is when the couple was still living together, mind you. Could you imagine living with someone you frequently catch staring at you scarily? Um, no thanks.
2. He wouldn’t let Frankel be alone with her daughter
Frankel also alleged that Hoppy refused to leave Frankel and Bryn alone together. “He would not let me be alone with Bryn in the apartment,” the Skinnygirl founder stated. She also added that if she was lying in bed with her child, Hoppy would crawl into bed also. Creeeeepy!
3. He’s living in her house
At the end of this season of Real Housewives of New York, Frankel was pretty much moved into her new swanky apartment. But up until then, she was bouncing around from hotel to hotel because Hoppy was living in the gorgeous apartment that Skinnygirl bought. The nerve!
4. He told her he was going to ruin her
According to reports, Frankel told a judge in court that Hoppy vowed to ruin her and destroy her fan base. Hoppy allegedly said, “I’m going to destroy you. I’m going to have you and your publicist crumbling and crying in the corner.” He also, weirdly, said, “You told me to buckle up and I’m buckling up and now you’re going to see what I was like on the basketball court.” This apparently is in reference to the fact that he’s a part-time personal trainer, who I guess is ruthless on the b-ball court. OK.
5. He locked Cookie up
Any RHONY fan knows who Cookie is — Frankel’s beloved dog. Hoppy allegedly locked the pup up once. WTF? According to court documents, Frankel claims that on one occasion, Hoppy locked Cookie up in a storage unit, then took the dog with him to a hotel without telling Frankel. Frankel said that Hoppy “wouldn’t tell me or my assistant where she was until after midnight.”
If that doesn’t sound nightmarish, I’m not sure what does. Good luck, Bethenny. This sounds like the opposite of fun.