The reason Selena Gomez keeps everyone at arm's length is sad

Jun 22, 2015 at 10:47 p.m. ET

Fame hasn't been all positive for Selena Gomez.

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The 22-year-old singer spoke candidly about how her relationships have suffered for being in the limelight during an interview with Elvis Duran on Z100's morning show, on the heels of the release of her new single with A$AP Rocky, "Good For You."

"People are like, 'We want you to be better!' And everybody's like 'I want you to be better' and everybody's like 'I want you to be healthy,' 'I want you to be happy,' 'I want you to be this,'" she said. "And then the moment you're trying to find some sort of happiness, it's so crazy. It's not safe for anyone! You can't talk about anything that you want to share with people because it's going to be ripped apart, and that's what makes me really sad."

Gomez, whose volatile relationship with Justin Bieber has been well publicized, said she's most vulnerable through her music, which she uses to express herself.

"If you're going to sit here and talk about my life, I have a right to say what I want and obviously I'm going to do it the way I wish to," she said. "I don't trust anyone."

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She continued, "It's something that I have to live with and I have to find the balance of who I want in my life and who isn't good for me."

And though Gomez said she feels like people often forget that she's a real person with real feelings, her fans always have her back.

"I get sad, I get anxious, I get emotional, I get happy," she said. "Especially in my 20s, my gosh! I feel like I'm figuring out who I am and I'm constantly being criticized. No matter what happens or what people are saying about me, what's going to come through is who I am," she said Monday. "If I was truly everything that people say I am, you would see it. It's not like I can hide anything anymore!"

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