Sofía Vergara’s ex-fiancé wants to ignore her wishes and impregnate a surrogate with two frozen embryos the two created when they were still a couple, but the op-ed he wrote for The New York Times leaves us with very little sympathy for his case.
In the piece, Nick Loeb relies on the old tropes of men’s rights and religious freedom in his bid to convince us that the Modern Family star should be forced into biological, if not familial, motherhood.
“A woman is entitled to bring a pregnancy to term even if the man objects. Shouldn’t a man who is willing to take on all parental responsibilities be similarly entitled to bring his embryos to term even if the woman objects?” he ponders.
The problem is, you can’t argue for men’s rights until the sexes have equal rights — and we are far from that. When conservative groups are trying to strip away women’s autonomy over their own bodies and their own reproductive decisions on a daily basis, it leaves very little room for sympathy for a man trying to force a woman into parenthood.
Loeb explained how the embryos came to be in the first place, and it sounds like he bullied a reluctant Vergara into it.
“When we got engaged, in 2012, I began to push for children,” he said. “As I said in my complaint, my fiancée insisted that we use a surrogate.”
After several failed attempts at bringing a pregnancy to term, Vergara had enough — and Loeb tried one more bullying tactic.
“But as we began to discuss other potential surrogates, it became clear once more that parenthood was much less urgent for her than it was for me,” he said. “We had been together for over four years. As I was coming on 40, I gave her an ultimatum. When she refused, we split up.”
Vergara left him rather than have children with him — that is how strongly she felt about it. And now he is trying to force the issue through a court of law.
To be clear, at the time the embryos were created the couple signed a contract stating they “could be brought to term only with both parties’ consent,” yet Loeb is still trying to force the issue.
In a statement through her lawyer, Vergara said in no uncertain terms that she does not want Loeb to force her into parenthood.
“Vergara, who has happily moved on with her life, is content to leave the embryos frozen indefinitely as she has no desire to have children with her ex, which should be understandable given the circumstances,” attorney Fred Silberberg told People.