19 Kids and Counting star Jessa Duggar has only been married to her husband Ben Seewald for a few months, but the couple has already figured out the key to a happy marriage — no matter how irritated they get with each other.
During an interview with People magazine, which took place at their Springdale, Arkansas, home, the couple revealed how important it is to have clear lines of communication.
“Ben is the best for sure at saying, ‘Sweetheart, we need to talk about this,’ if he senses I am irritated or upset about something,” Jessa divulged.
“It’s important not to build walls or turn away from hard topics,” Jessa told the mag. “Not like, ‘I am going to take my feelings and close off from you and build a little wall there.’ The ‘I’m-going-to-show-you’ attitude really hurts. It’s always best to open up and talk about things.”
And they understand that screaming and not talking about their problems can only makes things worse.
“Clamming up is just as bad [as yelling],” Jessa explained.
The couple also revealed that they never miss a date night, because they think of this romantic time together as an “investment” in their marriage.
As Seewald revealed, “Dates are investing in our marriage. That’s a good way to spend our money.”
They might spend their money on ice cream parlors and romantic dates, but that doesn’t mean that they are careless about their spending. In fact, they are quite the opposite.
“We have been thinking about finances a lot lately,” Seewald revealed, explaining that he and his wife want to avoid wasting money and racking up debt.
“If God blesses us with money, we want to find ways to give it to others who need help,” he added.
These might be four simple tips: talk through your differences, don’t keep your feelings bottled up inside, keep the romance alive and save money, but they are tips that we can all actually apply to our own relationships.