Zoe Saldana is an A-list movie star, so it might be surprising to learn that her childhood was a rough road. But Saldana opened up about her past and why she has no female friends. And it all started at a very early age.
Saldana admitted she wasn’t exactly a girly girl and that led to her having an interesting relationship with the children around her.
She explained, “But I was always adventurous. And anything that felt too feminine and girly, like ‘don’t get up because you have this beautiful dress. And I don’t want you to mess up the dress.’ I would look at my mom, like, come on now. What’s the point of bringing me into a kiddie birthday to put me in a dress and tell me I can’t play with the kids. Are you out of your mind? I would take off the dress, give it to my mom and go run around in my panties.”
According to E! News, that led to a childhood of female friends who didn’t understand her and, eventually, women around her who treated her badly.
“It was really hard. Because I love women. There was for a long time in my life when I was younger, I sort of gave up on trying to find female friends,” Saldana explained. “Because girls can sometimes be a little too mean with each other. And I don’t know where it comes from, as opposed to us uniting, we tend to pick each other apart. It was very, very difficult. I remember my mom always stood by us.”
But through it all, the Guardians of the Galaxy actress had her mother, who helped her see that the bullies may have had it worse than she did.
“She would talk it through. She never uplifted us by putting someone else down. See, she would try to make us understand, look there is probably something going on in their lives, or you need to understand, as a person, nobody bullies when they’re happy,” she said. “So the bully is the unhappiest person around you at that moment. They’re so unhappy he has to come and bother somebody else. Once you know all these things, and you know he is the one that feels most scared, the bully is the one that has very little regard for himself, very poor self-esteem.
“Once you understand that reality about a bully, you have won already. And you stick to the people that make you feel really good about yourself. But the one person that has to feel good about yourself is you. It takes practice. It’s not easy. You wake up and, and now, are you kidding me? Nothing fits. I look in the mirror — what are you going to do? You put something on. You practice the ‘I’m beautiful. This is me. This is as good as it is going to get and it is great.'”