The news of Ray Rice’s domestic violence against his now-wife Janay Rice continues to dominate the headlines. One musician, who has stood in the same shoes as the NFL player, offered advice in the wake of Ray’s release from the Baltimore Ravens.
Chris Brown spoke to Sway Calloway at MTV News about dealing with the fallout.
He shared with the journalist, “I think it’s all about the choices you make. With me, I deal with a lot of anger issues from my past — not knowing how to express myself verbally and, at the same time, not knowing how to cope with my emotions and deal with them and understand what they are.”
In 2009, the “Forever” singer was sentenced to five years of probation after assaulting his then-girlfriend Rihanna. The one thing that Chris recommended to Ray was a good dose of therapy.
“I think help is great,” said the Grammy winner. “I still talk to my therapist twice a week, and it helps me to… if I’m frustrated and I’m dealing with something, to vent and say what I’m going through so I can hear from an actual clinical person, ‘This is how you should react,’ or ‘It’s good to feel this way because feelings, emotions and energy are supposed to come and go. It’s not supposed to stay there, you’re not supposed to keep it inside, because it’ll bottle up and you’ll become a monster.'”
Chris has had a far-from-perfect record since his domestic violence against Rihanna. He has had numerous altercations, including a fistfight with Frank Ocean’s crew over a parking spot and a convicted assault charge after a scrape outside a Washington, D.C., hotel.
“For me, dealing with my anger issues and understanding myself and the life I’ve been through, where I’m headed and where I want to be has helped me focus on what’s really important and not F up. For anybody who’s going through that situation or anybody who’s dealing with it — it’s all about the choices. Every situation is different, but it’s all about the choices you make and how you control your anger.”
Chris isn’t here to pass judgment, either, but he has walked a similar path as the beleaguered athlete.
He summed up, “To Ray, or anybody else — because I’m not better than the next man — I can just say I’ve been down that road. I deal with situations and I’ve made my mistakes too, but it’s all about how you push forward and how you control yourself.”