To a certain extent, it’s our job as entertainment journalists to ask celebrities about their lives. That includes their marriages and children. But when someone says they don’t want to talk about it, we need to respect their wishes. Ryan Adams is teaching that lesson one hang-up at a time.
BuzzFeed recently spent some time with Ryan Adams in his studio and, while there, had the chance to witness the crooner in action as other people interviewed him. During an interview with an Australian radio station, the DJs pressed him about his wife and, when they wouldn’t back down, Adams hung up.
“OK, so I just hung up ’cause I was on the radio getting asked about my wife,” Adams explained to the reporter. “I was really nice about it the first time, and I’m sorry, but I won’t repeat myself. The deal is this: I’m a private person and I’ll be a gentleman and say I’m not talking about my marriage ever. I’ll never talk about it. Ever. I’ll talk about rescue cats for a few seconds. But even there I don’t want to talk about my pets. If I have children I’m not going to discuss that with anyone ever. I’ll suggest it once and then I’m going to hang up.”
Rough? Not really.
While many people will claim he “signed up for it” when he hopped into the spotlight, we think that’s a little unfair. You can’t choose where your passion or talent lies. Music is what he loves and what he wants to do. He shouldn’t be forced to put his entire life on display simply because his massive music talent has landed him on the world’s stage.
This goes for all celebrities, too. Sure, it’s awesome when Chris Pratt and Anna Faris share pictures of little Jack. It’s not cool when paparazzi hunt them down for pictures while they’re out shopping. (Thankfully, Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard’s campaign to end that has really slowed things down on that front.) We also love watching Nick Offerman and Megan Mullally swoon over each other when they do joint interviews, but we don’t think it’s acceptable to circle helicopters above someone’s wedding. Many of us are also out on whether it’s our place to speculate whether a celebrity marriage is on the rocks or not. Some celebs are open about their personal lives and it’s fun to eat it up. However, we tend to forget that celebrities are humans, too, and deserve a little more privacy.
Especially when they specifically ask for it.
So, did Adams make the right move? Definitely! He could have tried to steer the conversation elsewhere. Chances are, though, that those Australian DJs would have kept pestering him. It’s better to hang up quickly than end up in a furious rage when they won’t let it go. No one ever forgets a rage, but most people haven’t even noticed that Adams hung up on someone.
Of course, that could have something to do with the fact that, the next day, Adams supposedly tweeted out an apology for the “disconnected” call. That bit of a white lie might have saved him some trouble at the time, but we think he should have ‘fessed up to what he did and why. Maybe this can serve as a warning to anyone else thinking of prying into his relationship.
Still, we give props to Adams for handling the situation with as much patience and class as possible.