Katy Perry says she is finished trying to fix broken men who can’t handle a strong, successful woman.
Who doesn’t love a bad boy? It’s a classic love trap that many women fall into at some point, but the “Dark Horse” singer says she is so over it.
In the October issue of Harper’s Bazaar, Perry explained how her shrink helped her see the light.
“I want to mommy everyone. I want to take care of them. I want to save them, and I forget myself in the meantime. I learned that through therapy,” she explained.
“What I’ve learned is that if you don’t have the foundation of self-love first, you really have nowhere to pull love from to give it away. I had to learn about taking care of myself before I could take care of others.”
The star has been romantically involved with two famous bad boys: Her now ex-husband Russell Brand, to whom she was wed for only about a year before they announced their separation, and fellow singer/famed womanizer John Mayer, who she dated on-and-off for months.
“As I’m heading into my 30s I have less time for bullshit,” she explained. “I look for the same characteristics: a sense of humor — someone who makes me laugh off the charts — someone who is sensitive, someone who loves and understands music, and who is really smart.
“A lot of times I’ve ended up with people who have been intimidated by me, unfortunately. They say they’re not, but it comes out in the long run. They’re threatened, or there’s resentment because they don’t know how to handle it.”
For now, the singer says, she is focusing on work and sticking to group dinner parties with friends. “I’m definitely not on Tinder, even though I joke about it,” she clarified.
Read the complete interview with Katy Perry in the October issue of Harper’s Bazaar, on newsstands Sept. 23.