Neil Patrick Harris has revealed that it’s his children that keep redefining his relationship, and that seeing his fiancé David Burtka interacting with them made him re-fall in love with him.
“Honeymoon phases end. They just do,” the How I Met Your Mother actor revealed in Glamour magazine’s September issue. “We’re animals, and animals aren’t inclined to copulate with just each other for the rest of their lives. So here’s a challenge: How do you keep redefining your relationship? I think you have to find new elements that turn you on, and not only sexually.”
“Having kids was one of those great moments for me. Watching David become another level of person, mastering this other domain, made me look at him with a whole other set of appreciative eyes. That sort of made me re-fall in love with him,” Harris confessed of becoming parents to their twins Harper Grace and Gideon Scott.
“That’s another important thing to realize. Everyone falls out of love with everything. You fall out of love with your house. You fall out of love with your job. You just have to figure out ways to keep [the love] alive,” he added.
Fatherhood has been an incredible journey for the 41-year-old star, but so has his Tony Award-winning role on the Broadway play Hedwig and the Angry Inch, which has given the actor more confidence and helped him to redefine his ideals on masculinity.
“I wasn’t a very sexual being at a young age. I went through puberty much later than my classmates, so I always glorified the masculine ideal. I thought that masculinity equated confidence, and I was struggling to feel confident. Hedwig was a great active departure from that [mentality] because everything that I had known about confidence had to be thrown out the window. Now, all of a sudden, those masculine postures and inflections were tells that I wasn’t doing the job right,” he confessed.
So how did it feel wearing crazy, killer heels night after night for his performances on the show?
“I had to be overtly feminine, and it felt totally weird. Initially, walking around in heels is a very challenging thing for a guy to do. But once you’ve done it six or seven times, it’s weirdly empowering. I had to move my hips and legs in a way that guys don’t get to do so boldly — it was fun!”