How I Met Your Mother theory: Is The Mother dead?
Possible spoilers below. Enter if you dare.
WARNING: If you haven't seen this week's episode and/or don't want the entire ending to How I Met Your Mother possibly ruined for you, do not continue. This one is going to hurt, guys.
Tonight on How I Met Your Mother, we saw more of Future Ted and The Mother bonding on a trip back to Farhampton. The couple, now together about 10 years, realize they know all of each other's stories. Still, Ted shares the story of the time Robin broke a lamp at the hotel the morning before her wedding, how Robin and Lily got into a huge fight and how Ted brought every suit he ever owned to Farhampton because he could decide what to wear when he "walked down the aisle." It's how the episode ended that took our breath away, though.
Robin's mom showed up. This is an important surprise to Robin because earlier we learned her mother wouldn't be coming. When Ted relived that memory, The Mother (played by the adorable and lovable Cristin Milioti) smiled and shrugged, saying, "That's not really such a surprise. I mean, c'mon, of course she showed up. What mother is going to miss her daughter's wedding?" There's a couple beats of Ted staring sadly at The Mother until she looks up and sees him wilt. There's a nearly teary moment and then The Mother changed the subject, trying to lighten the mood.
HIMYM fans: We're convinced that The Mother is dead (or, in this episode, will soon die).
Now that we've seen it, it cannot be unseen. The signs have been there for quite a while and, as it turns out, we're not the only ones who got the hint. This theory has actually been floating around for quite a while.
First, think about all the times Future Ted has been talking to his kids and telling them about how he met their mother. It's been a while since we've seen all the episodes, but we quickly skimmed several of the moments when he's talking to the teens, and he never mentions The Mother being in the other room or coming home soon. E! even says they went through all the episodes and can confirm she's never mentioned as being present in the future.
Additionally, she's never around in any of the flash forwards to the future where all of the gang are sitting around together reminiscing.
Second, Ted's big speeches. We know Ted loves to tell stories, but c'mon. A lot of those stories are in no way, shape or form appropriate to tell your children. Unless, of course, you're so desperate to cling to your dead wife and to help your kids truly know her the way you did.
Some conspiracy theorists have reminded us of the speech Ted gives in "The Time Travelers" when he imagines running into his future wife 45 days early and giving her this speech:
Exactly 45 days from now, you and I are going to meet. We're going to fall in love, and we're going to get married, and we're going to have two kids. We're going to love them and each other so much. All that is 45 days away, but I'm here now, I guess because I want those extra 45 days with you. I want each one of them… I am always going to love you. Until the end of my days and beyond.
Of course, Ted's a hopeless romantic. Even if they have eternity, Ted would want those 45 extra days. We can't help wondering if Ted's wishing for those extra days because their time together was cut so short.
Finally, Ted has admitted to losing his wife before. Granted, both times he's been completely baked. Earlier in the show's existence, in the episode "Tick Tick Tick," Ted questions, "Where is my wife?" Did she just excuse herself to the ladies room and Ted's too high to remember. Or is he wondering how he ended up a widower?
Of course, other theorists believe Ted is dead (which might explain why Josh Radnor never narrates the story and, instead, it's done by an uncredited Bob Saget).
However, tonight's all too tear-jerking episode of How I Met Your Mother has us convinced we'll eventually find out that The Mother is dead/dying. Can we tell you how much we don't want the show to end now? So many feels!