Candace Cameron Bure takes a backseat to her husband when it comes to family leadership.
She may be a successful actress and author, but there is one place Candace Cameron Bure does not rule the roost: her own home. The wife and mother of three says when it comes to her family, her husband is the boss — and she likes it that way.
In an interview with FOX411, the not-so-feminist former Full House star revealed, “I can go back to the Bible and the Bible says, ‘Wives respect your husbands and husbands love your wives.’ There’s a difference between men and women.”
“I know my husband doesn’t need the type of love I require that is much more caring and sensitive in nature like, ‘Oh honey you look wonderful.’ It’s like my husband doesn’t need to hear that on a daily basis like I do. But he needs to be respected. I like that my husband is a leader, he’s a man’s man. I want him to lead our family.”
“It doesn’t mean we don’t make decisions together. It doesn’t mean I don’t have a voice in our marriage, of course I do. I’m a very strong woman and an opinionated woman, but I don’t think a marriage is at its best when you have two people vying for the same position, so someone has to yield at some point and ultimately I will defer to my husband,” she explained. “That’s not to say he isn’t constantly going, ‘Well what do you think?’ And we compromise on things, but ultimately he makes the decision. I know that makes him feel respected as the man of our home.”
“We’ve been married for 17 years and that’s short compared to my parents and grandparents. Some people think my perspective is old fashioned. I’m not trying to say I’ve got it all down. I certainly don’t.”
She further explains the concept in her new book Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose. “My husband is a natural born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work.”
Cameron Bure’s new book is available in bookstores now.