Selena Gomez is not the kind of girl you take home for a night

Nov 4, 2013 at 9:01 p.m. ET

Selena Gomez is forging her way in the world. And for the first time, is doing it her way.

Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez was known by many as "Justin Bieber's girlfriend" for a long time, and she is working to shed that title. In the last few years, her Disney show ended, she released a new album, a new movie and turned 21. But it has left the singer wondering if she missed out on her teen years.

"Part of you wants to have that rebellious feeling where you're just like, forget it — I can do anything I want," Gomez told Teen Vogue.

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But deep down, Gomez said that just isn't who she is, even though she has definitely "tried it," but has just "never been that girl."

That lack of rebellion includes her love life, and Gomez knows exactly what she wants in that arena. She recently told her fans that class is the sexiest trait you can have.

"I'm always going to be the girl you want to take home to your parents, not for the night," she explained, according to Yahoo.

The actress was with Justin Bieber for years, and it sounds like she has never quite gotten over the pop star. While never specifically mentioning the Biebs, she explained, "You fall in love and it completely consumes you. So a part of you is broken when that's gone."

Even so, it doesn't appear the former couple will be reuniting any time soon.

Gomez has been an actress and a singer, and recently said she wanted to focus on her music. But she understands life decisions aren't easy to come by, and this is only the beginning.

"I'm 21, so now I've entered the decade of confusion about who I am and what I want to do with my life, and that's what this entire decade's going to be," she told Teen Vogue.

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And although her BFF Taylor Swift inspires her, she doesn't feel like they have grown up the same way, so she is trying to find her own path.

"The difference between Taylor and me is she was sixteen with the confidence of a 25-year-old. Actually, I should say 80-year-old, because she's such an old soul," she explained. "I was not that way. I was very sheltered until about 18 or 19. I still live at home, and I'm 21! She does inspire me like crazy, but I wouldn't change my path, because it allowed me to figure out all that stuff and do it on my own."

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