Nick Carter reveals why he didn't attend sister's funeral

Sep 24, 2013 at 7:58 p.m. ET

Nick Carter's done suffering in silence. The pop star's ready to talk about one of the most painful moments of his life, the death of his sister Leslie.

Nick Carter

Backstreet Boy Nick Carter recently had a heart-to-heart with Dr. Phil. Carter, who has a new book called Facing the Music and Living to Talk About It, discussed hot button topics including the untimely death of his sister, Leslie.

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Leslie died Feb. 1, 2012, at just 25 years old. The cause of death was a drug overdose. Substance abuse is an issue the singer's also struggled with and it's a topic heavily detailed in his book. Carter made waves following his sister's death when it was revealed that he wouldn't attend her funeral. He shared on Dr. Phil (via US Weekly) the reason behind his absence.

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"The reason I did not go was because I actually got the phone call from my father [Robert Gene Carter] that she had passed. Immediately, the conversation turned into not about her death and not about the actual passing and what had occurred, but more about themselves," he explained. "And then I started to get blamed by the rest of the family — I have a large family and they all went there — and they were blaming me for the death."

They believed his presence could have stopped Leslie from going over the edge. "I felt it was unfair. Especially with all the things I have done — and still to this day continue to do — for them," he said. "I love, love my family like everyone loves their family. But then there comes a point where you have to ask yourself, 'Are you helping them or hurting them?'"

There's truth to the saying, "You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves." That's something Carter had to learn the hard way with his own addiction. He decided to get clean in 2008 after being diagnosed with heart issues caused by drug use.

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