The D Word
Day after day I hear different excuses why people can't get a date. Some singles have rich imaginations. Here are just a few excuses that sound a bit like this:
I can't get a date because...
No matter what reason you have for not dating, just know that just because you dont' know how to get a date doesn't mean you can't. If you want to date, and if you want to meet someone special, you can learn how to do it! To further prove my point, every one of the above people who said these things eventually learned to date, and three out of five of them have already met someone and fallen in love. The other two will also find their partners if they keep working at it. Would you like to know how they did it? First, they changed their minds and stopped thinking it couldn't be done. Second, they took action.
You have to DO something
It would be too easy if Mr. Right just came knocking on our doorstep. You can't sit in front of the TV and wait for the dating world to arrive. If you feel you are ready to date; if you have your life reasonably together; and, if you have taken time to feed your spirit after breaking up with someone, then it's time for you to get moving. Lots of dates are waiting to meet you.
Forget about the myth of REJECTION
So many great people stop the flow of their dating life and accumulate more and more "proof" that they are not datable or lovable. The "proof," of course, is all in their imagination. When you gather this kind of false evidence, you either settle for someone you don't really want or don't go out at all because you anticipate rejection. Once you understand that you have the power over how you feel about yourself, no one can "reject" you. If someone indicates they don't want to date you, obviously, you don't want to go out with them. You want to be around people who appreciate you.
The more actions taken, the greater your SUCCESS will be
If you are sincere about wanting to meet someone, you will get out often to different settings. You will be friendly, talk to people, reach out to others, and create a social life. You will have so much going on, you won't have time to feel rejected. Here are the three key ways to meet someone:
That's your course outline for DATING 101. Do you want to meet someone? Just like the disbelievers I described, you can do it, too. I know you can.
Tonja Evetts Weimer is the author of Thriving After Divorce: Transforming your life when a relationship ends. For more information visit www.tonjaweimer.com
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