How To Help
If your friend has been diagnosed with breast cancer, a good support system will help her weather her treatment better, both physically and emotionally. Here are some ways you can help.
Lend an ear
After her diagnosis, your friend may be stunned, overwhelmed, angry, sad, scared—or all of the above. Be a sounding board, ready to listen when she needs to talk. Stay positive without discounting her fears.
Lend a hand
As she undergoes treatment, your friend may feel tired or sick, as well as overwhelmed by her daily responsibilities. Some suggestions of practical support include:
Be her friend
When all is said and done, she is your friend, not a patient or a "case." Help her remember that by having fun with her in "normal" ways. As her time and energy permit, go for a walk, watch a movie, discuss a book, go window shopping. If you did it together before she was diagnosed, do it now if she feels up to it.
Hire a sitter if necessary, and take her out for dinner and a movie, or to a spa day complete with manicure, pedicure, and a facial. Buy her a gift certificate for a massage.
Most importantly, keep asking what you can do and offering suggestions of help all the way until she completes her treatments. Your practical help and emotional support will help her cope now, as well as help her move into a healthy future.
Helping friends beat breast cancer
As Amy got through her cancer treatment and continued her recovery, she was shocked to find out that her best friend now was stricken with the same disease.
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