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When dad's not excited... yet

A reader asks:"We just found out we're expecting our first, and I'm overjoyed! The only problem is that my husband isn't very excited. What's his problem?"

Our fatherhood expert Armin Brott answers: "The short answer to your questions is, 'Nothing -- he's a guy!'

Man - not excited, huh?

"As flip as it sounds, it's actually very true. The two of you are going to be on a very similar psychological journey while you're pregnant. You'll both experience a huge variety of feelings, emotions, worries and joys, all of which follow a basic progression from beginning to end. But you won't be going through the same things at the same time. Your husband -- like most men -- is generally one trimester behind. Keep in mind that you have plenty of physical reminders (some more pleasant that others) that you're pregnant. He has none of that.

"For most men, pregnancy for the first trimester is a pretty abstract concept. He may have had a few brief moments of being thrilled when you first found out (after all, it's confirmation that he's a fully functional male), but the whole idea is so hard to grasp that many guys actually forget about it for a few days at a time." 

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In the know

If you've installed an automated icemaker to satisfy your craving to eat ice, or if you're dining on actual mud pies -- your body may be trying to tell you it needs iron. Neither ice nor dirt will add iron to your diet, but there may be a link between nonfood cravings and iron deficiency.

An appetite for nonfood items -- such as ice, dirt, clay paste, starch, hair and refrigerator frost -- is called pica. The connection between pica and iron deficiency is unclear, but consuming clay actually worsens the deficiency because clay inhibits iron absorption.

Read more about pica here.


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Everyone's heard the name, but what is Lamaze?

Lamaze refers to a method of childbirth preparation based on the Lamaze philosophy of birth. The philosophy includes the following tenets: Birth is normal; The experience of birth profoundly affects women and their families; Women's inner wisdom guides them through birth; Women's confidence and ability to give birth is either enhanced or diminished by the care provider and place of birth; Women have a right to give birth free from routine medical interventions; Birth can safely take place in birth centers and homes; Childbirth education empowers women to make informed choices in health care, to assume responsibility for their health and to trust their inner wisdom.

Read more: 16 reasons to use Lamaze during childbirth

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