As much as you may have to bite your tongue when a friend effortlessly — and lovingly — describes one of your flaws, accepting our weaknesses along with our strengths is part of being an adult, right? For many parents, articulating frustrations and explaining our own feelings — especially in the heat of a grocery store tantrum — can often result in a meltdown of our own (which we later feel guilty about, of course).
In June, when the kids are out of school and deeply tangled in your hair, resolve to improve your communication skills through tangible habits, Desilva suggests. And hey, don’t just stop at the rugrats. Adopt this clear-communication mentality toward your partner, your manager, your mother-in-law, you name it.
“You could focus on counting to 10 before speaking, asking and understanding the other person’s point of view before mentioning yours, lowering your tone of voice when upset, stating your feelings instead of complaints or responding as soon as possible to text messages from each other,” Desilva suggests. “Changing one thing is doable and will have a significant impact on your relationships. Pick one skill, and do it every day in every interaction you have with people.” Chances are high you’ll see a significant shift in your relationship, even after a mere 30 days.