Personally, I am not in touch with the peace part yet. Still in the thick of things, I try to trust in the process and accept things the way they are but it's difficult for me. Try as I might, I've never been a "what will be will be" kind of gal.
Ways to find peace
I've read that inner peace can be achieved by:
- Appreciating what you have and expressing your gratitude.
- Releasing negative emotions such as anger and guilt.
- Feeling positive energy around you.
- Being present: Living in the moment by concentrating on something that allows your senses to come alive.
- Exploring your spiritual or religious beliefs.
What others say
When discussing finding peace with fellow members of my various infertility support groups, here is what I heard:
Rebecca G. shares,
The ultimate test
Our infertility journeys will all come to an end at some point... Some couples may choose to adopt a child or hire a surrogate; others may give themselves a time frame in which to try to conceive a child and when they've reached that deadline, they quit. Others can no longer afford the fight or believe they are too old; and others still have been given a diagnosis that they have, for example, a less than 2 percent chance of success. However and whenever the infertility journey ends, finding peace at the end has to be the hardest part of all this. When you have struggled and sacrificed and hoped for so long for something, it's hard enough to give up, but then to find peace and comfort with it as well, is the ultimate test.
For me, I believe when I can find a place within myself, away from the vicious cycle of pain and all the ups and downs, and into a space of calm and reflection, that is where I will find peace and that could be where wonderful things can then be born.