Good Enough Is the New Perfect is based on the research that authors Hollee Schwartz Temple and Becky Beaupre Gillespie conducted over a span of two years, surveying and interviewing more than 900 working moms from all over the U.S.
What you should know up front is that this book is not about settling or finding refuge in mediocrity. It captures the challenges and the opportunities of modern motherhood — where technology tempts Type A tendencies and working from home brings new work/life balance issues to the forefront. It challenges you to evaluate your life, the value of your time and how your choices impact your quality of life. It inspires you to work toward everything you want from life as a mom, a professional and as a woman. I was fortunate enough to ask co-author, Hollee Schwartz Temple, a few questions about her book.
Hollee Schwartz Temple: Being good enough is all about choosing your own priorities. You decide that you are going to pour your heart and soul into some areas, but others you recognize are beyond you or don’t match your bigger life goals. Those are the ones you let go of. That’s very different than just saying, “Whatever. I’ll do a mediocre job at everything.”
For example, I am not crafty. It’s not a priority of mine, although I know lots of moms who show their love through adorable projects. Am I settling because I go for store-bought cards for Valentine’s Day? I don’t think so. I’m picking my own priorities.
HST: Working at home can bring many benefits, but it can be very isolating. Moms who inhabit both worlds often feel like an outsider in both: They’re not really at-home moms but don’t feel like they qualify as full-fledged working moms because they don’t dress up in a suit and take public transportation to an office. These moms sometimes struggle as they change costumes and they often say that they feel left out — they don’t have a mom team to join.
HST: Well, if you’re on the Never Enough side of the spectrum, you’re always afraid to turn off your technology for fear of missing something. So, you have to have your priorities straight. Is it OK to wait a few hours before responding to an email? I’ve found that almost always, it is. And then you don’t have to be juggling technology and trying to focus on your family simultaneously. That can be incredibly frustrating.
HST: Our statistics really speak to this. The women in our 900-plus mom study who fell into the group we called the Never Enoughs — the perfectionists — suffered a lot for their unbending attitudes. They made a bit more money... but they gave up a lot for that. They were less happy in their marriages, they didn’t feel like their priorities were reflected in their daily living and they didn’t have or make time for things they loved. And the surprising thing was that the moms who adopted a more relaxed approach — the Good Enoughs — were just as likely to advance in their careers. So, our research showed a definite upside to shooting for less-than-perfect in every facet of life!
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