Some parents share a peck in the presence of their kiddos, but how much affection between parents is OK for your kids to really see?
How much PDA is ok for your kids to see?
Although you shouldn't make out in front of your little ones, a G-rated smooch that elicits a chorus of "ews" from your youngsters won't exactly scar them for life. From the benefits of setting a good example for a healthy, loving relationship to examples of appropriate PDA when your kids are around, learn how showing affection in front of your kids can do more good than harm — so long as you don't cross the line.
Set the standard
It's your job as parents to set a good example for a healthy, loving relationship for your children, and kissing in front of your kids is part of that love. "I think it is very important for parents to show affection in front of their children," advises licensed clinical social worker and outpatient therapist Amy Morin, LCSW. "Despite kids' protests that it's gross, witnessing physical affection between their parents reassures them that their parents love one another. It also helps teach kids about love, marriage and affection which can prepare them for their future relationships."
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Keep it PG
"Going over the top will make your kids feel uncomfortable and confused."
How much is too much? Knowing where to draw the line and when to lock the door are your best bets when it comes to kissing — and other adult-related activities — in front of children. So long as the PDA you're showing in front of your kids isn't sexual in nature, it's probably not going to scar them for life. “Be aware; there's a difference between casual affection and sexual behavior,” warns Dr. Cindy Bunin, a marriage and family therapist and child development specialist. “Going over the top will make your kids feel uncomfortable and confused. If the children see and hear love-making as a constant, they may think that that is what relationships are all about and may get involved prematurely in sexual relationships.”
Practice appropriate PDA
While a few choruses of "eeews" are to be expected when you kiss in front of your kids, you shouldn't feel pressured into toning it down when you're sticking to the rules. So long as you respect the differences between harmless displays of love and inappropriate physical affection, your children should actually witness these types of public displays of affection:
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While showing affection in front of your children is vital for helping your brood develop healthy relationships in their own future, you may find yourself with an overly-affectionate youngster on your hands. For those kids eager to plant a smooch on everyone from their friends to the mailman after seeing their own parents kissing in front of children, you may need to set some boundaries for your little one's affection toward others and take a good look at your own actions; it may be OK to kiss in front of your kids but you may want to tone it down a bit until your child's super sweet phase has passed!
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