Shocking video: Students bully bus monitor

Jun 23, 2012 5:25 PM by Lisa Steinke

Posted in Parenting / Parenting Tips & Advice / Children's School & Education

Middle schoolers in upstate New York not only verbally assaulted and taunted a 68-year-old bus monitor, but they videotaped it and posted it on YouTube. When the video went viral, the community became outraged.

A hidden online culture

This shocking, profanity-laced video has people outraged at the students' behavior and rallying in support of the bus monitor, Karen Huff Klein, who is also a grandmother. As a mom, are you aware of everything your child is doing online? Read on for more details about a hidden online culture most parents don't know exists and learn how to protect your child from it.

The video of the woman being taunted went viral and she has received an outpouring of support since the incident — both emotional and monetary. In just three days, a fund that was set up on the crowd-funding site Indiegogo.com to help send her on a vacation has reached nearly $600,000. On Friday, the local police also gave her apology statements from some of the boys who were involved in the taunting.

"I feel really bad about what I did," wrote Wesley. "I wish I had never done those things. If that had happened to someone in my family, like my mother or grandmother, I would be really mad at them."

Josh wrote: "I am so sorry for the way I treated you. When I saw the video, I was disgusted and could not believe I did that. I am sorry for being so mean and I will never treat anyone this way again."

A hidden online culture

So why would these middle school students bully an adult, videotape it and proudly post it on the internet for the world to see? Mary Kay Hoal, an online safety expert and mother of five says, "These kids' actions are a direct reflection of the hidden online culture parents have no idea exists, as well as the fact that parents aren’t involved in what their kids do online.”

Cyberbaiting is a word parents need to learn

"It's called cyberbaiting," says Hoal. "It’s a form of premeditated cyber-bullying. Cyber-extortion. The goal is to bully someone with the specific purpose of recording the harassment and sharing it online with friends and the broader online community."

What parents need to know about cyberbaiting

"It’s important parents recognize and understand the following three things," says Hoal.

These kids, ages 12, 13, 14 have been members of social networking sites where the culture — particularly for kids — is a coarse, rude and social free-for-all fueled with disrespect and bullying where members aren’t held accountable for their actions, and certainly aren’t taught the importance of digital citizenship.
These kids had YouTube accounts. While YouTube is a wonderful site for sharing videos, the culture is: the more outrageous the video, the more views, the more popular.
These kids' behavior is a direct reflection of the digital culture our kids are immersed in and as a result of the unhealthy, cruel and no-accountability mentality, is absolutely influencing the way this generation of kids believe it’s OK to interact and disrespect others. It’s socially reprehensible.

What parents can learn from this incident

"This is both a teaching opportunity and a learning opportunity," warns Hoal. "This is a huge wake-up call for parents. This incident has shined a light on the reality of what’s truly going on with kids online as a result of them participating in Facebook and YouTube where it’s a cultural free-for-all."

"It’s painfully clear that because these sites aren’t created with our kids' well-being in mind, the culture in unhealthy, cruel and influencing our kids to engage in socially reprehensible behavior and this is a deep and dark concern."

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What parents can do to prevent this

When they provide their child a digital device or membership to a social site, they are accepting personal responsibility for their actions.
It’s critically important parents need to understand they have to be digitally involved, digitally aware and digitally educated specific to their children.
Remind your children it’s never OK to treat others with disrespect, cruelty or unkindness and it’s certainly never OK to hurt or humiliate another person as well with a digital device.
Teach that bullying is a choice.