Teacher/Parent Relationship — Is It Taboo?
Some moms are, some moms aren't — friends with their child's teacher. It's good to have a good relationship, but how good is too good?
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Your child is with his teacher six hours out of the day.
His teacher knows his strengths and his weaknesses.
His teacher knows a lot about you, from your child.
The teacher is a very special person in your child's life (I'm hoping).
But how are you with your child's teacher? Are you close? Is that a line you won't cross?
Question: Are you friends with your child's teacher?
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My oldest son is in first grade right now. We were lucky enough to have him get the same teacher he had from kindergarten, and I just love her. I bonded with her immediately when he was in kindergarten and I have really felt a closeness and a friendship with her. She takes care of my son all day long. She looks out for him. She teaches him. She cares about him, and I love that. She's one of those teachers whom I texted on Mother's Day wishing her a happy day because I adore her that much.
She's always there for us, and when Matt was in the hospital in February, she cooked and baked for us and dropped it off. She's become a member of our little tribe. She's someone who — when William graduates from high school — will be right there with us clapping and crying. She's that kind of friend to our family. And I hope that our other sons get her; I'm praying!
This is my son's first real year of school and I'm not friends with his teacher. That being said, I try to be friendly with her, but I feel that the student-parent-teacher relationship should stay on a professional level. I wouldn't want my child to suffer any ramifications of a fall-out, if it were to happen. I also wouldn't want to think that my child might get special consideration that would make other children or parents resentful.
On the flip side of that, I wouldn't want them to be overly tough on my child because they didn't want to appear too lenient. As friends, you share so much personal information and I want my child's teacher to remain objective. It all boils down to a conflict of interests in my opinion.
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