The whining isn’t working for any of us — it’s driving me mad, and it’s a bad habit for them to resort to whining to communicate their needs.
I reached out to pediatrician Melissa Arca to see if she could explain the why behind the whining.
Dr. Arca explained, “Whining is often the gateway to a tantrum and/or your child's way of not melting down into a complete tantrum mess! So, in some ways, that whining is better than the alternative. Many toddlers and preschoolers often kick up the whining just before they're about to tackle a new cognitive or social milestone (language, negotiating with peers, sharing, etc). They are often at a loss for words when the world seems a little overwhelming to them. In addition, just like tantrums, whining is more common in children who are tired, hungry or who have had a long day. And, like anything, whining can become a habit. Children notice that we respond to whining, and even if it's negative attention, they'll take it.”
This explains why for so many of us, whining is at its peak in the evening. When I’m rushing around, trying to finish dinner, run a load of laundry and pick up after a long day, I’m not necessarily as available to them as they need for me to be.
While it helps to know the reasons why kids whine, it’s also important to know how to minimize it so we can stay sane.
Most importantly, be consistent. Once your child realizes whining will not work, they’re less likely to try this tactic.
Armed with the knowledge that whining is a part of normal childhood development and some tactics on how to handle it, you should be able to minimize the whining, at the very least.
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