Would You Pay
For A Girl?
Gender selection is a touchy subject. Is making sure you specifically have a girl (or a boy) so important to you that you would pay for it?
Moms facing off this week
Audrey McClelland, founder of Mom Generations, and Roo Ciambriello, founder of Nice Girls Notes.
The scenario (in my case)
I've always wanted to experience life with a little girl.
After having four boys in a row (and running out of boy names we love), I've realized that my husband and I seem to create boys pretty darn well.
We've been thinking about bringing another baby into our world for a little over a year now.
I would love to see if we could get lucky with some pink this time around.
Question: Would you ever try gender selection?
I love my boys more than life itself, but I'm not embarrassed or ashamed to admit that I have always yearned for a girl, too. I have an amazing relationship with my mother, and I think about how much I would love to have that with a little girl, too. There's just something about a mom and her daughter -- it's a different bond.
When I first heard about gender selection, I was completely shocked by it, but then I have to be honest, it intrigued me. Essentially you (greatly) increase your odds of a particular sex. If I had the money to do it (it can run up to $30K), I would do it in a heartbeat. I really, really would. To ensure a girl, absolutely.
I feel like for someone like me, who is obviously good at having boys, I don't know if a girl would ever be in my cards. I've had doctors tell me that there's just some women who produce a particular sex because of their uterine environment. To increase my chances of having a girl to over 90 percent? Yep, I would jump at this opportunity.
*I do want to disclose here that I absolutely know that a healthy baby is the most important thing of all.
Nice Girls Notes
I understand the appeal, but I wouldn't do it. I have two daughters, and I'm pregnant with my third child (gender unknown). People keep making offhand comments like, "This baby better be a boy!" or "You know you have to keep trying 'til you get a boy!"
Better be a boy? Really? Is this Communist China? What happens if the gender selection process isn't 100 percent successful?
Does this lead to an influx of terminated pregnancies based on the fact that Mom and Dad wanted a boy, but they're getting a girl? Or vice versa?
While I applaud scientific progress, this seems like a regression in morality. I do not want to live in a world where the value of a life is based on his or her gender.
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